Friday, August 8, 2008

A few thoughts on hospitality

I think that I have mentioned a few times about the hospitality here.  This part of the world is known for its welcoming of guests.  Imagine walking down the street (a bit more true in villages than in big cities) and being urged by locals to come inside their home for a cup of tea and biscuits (i.e. cookies for us from the U.S.).  For extraverts, its a lot of fun;  we are always meeting new people and getting to be with people in their homes.  

Our problem is knowing what to do with those awkward final moments when we are ready to leave.  Although they invited us in, how long do they want us to stay?  How do we say that we need to move on without offending?  We all struggle with this wherever we are, but with hospitality being such a HUGE value here, the pressure not to offend someone by leaving too early or too late seems all the more stressful.  Somehow you have to send signals that they have successfully been a great host.  We try our best, but anticipate future understanding that will show us we should have done some things differently.

I struggle with one piece of the hospitality.  To show you that they are offering you a clean cup, they will set a cup in front of you dripping with water.  Thats not a big deal unless you are aware of results of testing done on that water.  Acceptable drinking water has less than 500  of some measurement of microbes.  In this area testing has shown the levels over 30,000.  We are trying to work on that problem.  Anyway, just one droplet in your system doesn't sit well for a few days.  I just experienced that this week.  We try to discreetly wipe the cups, but it isn't always possible. Most times you say a short prayer before you take a sip.

1 comment:

Anonymous said...

Are there some Pakistanis you can ask about the whole hospitality thing, like when you should leave?
Prayers are with you for clean and healthy intestines!